Friday, January 18, 2013

The "Fat Girl Code" and Pit and Peak Week 2!


First, is there even such a thing as a "Fat Girl Code?" I'm not sure if it is a real thing or not, but tonight I found myself hoping that it existed! 

Tonight I went out with my one sister and some people after work to a special event at the science center and sports works for this over 21 event. It was pretty interesting. They open up the science center so you can explore it without kids around and they serve alcohol. I did pass up on the drinks because you know I am watching my calories, but nonetheless it is cool to see it being sold there. Drunk people and robots. . . I can only imagine the possibilities. 

The sports works has some really cool things too. You can do various activities and it will compare you to a pro-athlete or olympian, for example. 

And I learned a very interesting fact:



Who knew? I guess if you are looking for a unique exercise activity you can go out and get yourself a unicycle! If you happen to actually do this, please send me a picture! I can only imagine how horribly embarrassing I'd be on a unicycle. 

Ok, well back to the point - the "fat girl code" So at this event there was also a roller coaster simulator. It looked pretty cool and everybody was excited to give it a try. At first I explained that I hated the feeling of going upside down and of course everyone responded pressuring me about how fun it would be. I quietly told my sister the truth: I was concerned that if the simulator was anything like the real thing then maybe I wouldn't fit. 

Has anyone else experienced a situation like this? 

When I was interning for a non-profit in Russia, some of my other non-Russian friends and I decided we wanted to take some of the people we worked with out for a fun night. We thought it would be a cool idea to go go-kart racing at this small, local amusement park. So we go and we all pay and we are in line to ride the go-karts. Everyone is getting in and the poor Russian employee didn't know English. Some of the Russians we were with had broken English, at best, and my Russian was equally broken. All that could be translated was "car to small." Ouch. I was so embarrassed. I hadn't tried to get in or anything and I've been on a lot of go-karts here in the U.S. and I've never had a problem, but who is going to argue. I was mortified! Everyone acted cool about the whole thing and they nicely tried to pin it on the people running the go-karts and not me. But from that point on I've been very aware of situations like that and careful not to put myself in that emotional position again.

Tonight, I was nervous. I wasn't sure what excuse I should come up with. Then I noticed that the employee who was working the simulator was a little on the heavier side. I thought inside my head, "I really hope that this woman sees me and would say something if she thought I'd have a problem fitting." Like a "fat girl code" or something, right? 

When it was our turn and as we were about to get in, the woman approached us and she didn't say anything. As I was sitting down she gave the instructions for how to do the harness and I quietly made a comment about being a little concerned and she was so nice! She told me that when she first was able to go for a ride as a test that she was concerned and that she had no problem. She looked at me and told me I had nothing to worry about and in the end I didn't. Honestly though, I was so glad that she was the  person working. A potentially very emotionally upsetting and mortifying thing could have happened and when I made the comment to her she totally "got it."

It is difficult being an overweight girl. A lot of emotional struggles come with it and sometimes I think "am I crazy" for worrying about this or that, but then it is great when someone, like the woman tonight, validates that they had similar concerns. You aren't alone in this, people get it and will help you out if you need it. Being on a diet is hard, but so is staying fat. Here is to not ever having to have these worries again!
"Losing weight is hard. Maintaining weight is hard. Staying fat is hard. Choose your hard."
Pit and Peak- Week 2
The basic idea is to blog about the pit(s), or lowest part(s) of your week and the peak(s), or the best part(s) of your week. Link-up with both of us, and hop around and see the highs and lows of other bloggers' weeks.

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Pit

Having several days of bad weather. I froze trying to go for walks during my lunch break. I want Spring! 
(I guess I don't have much to complain about!)

Peaks
I reached a total of 30lbs lost!
I've connected with many new followers!  
I hosted my first giveaway! You can enter here :) 
 Hockey is back!

What were your Pit(s) and Peak(s) this week? Link up with Tales of a Twenty Something and Bold Butter Baby and share! 



33 comments:

  1. I avoided Six Flags for so long because I was afraid the restraints wouldn't go down or that I would not be able to release them afterwards. Last summer my sister and I went, and I didn't have any problems. Although, I spent so much time stressing and worrying about each ride that I don't think I let myself enjoy it!

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  2. I feel your pain. Especially at large amusement parks, I'm afraid that I alone will derail the roller coaster off the tracks. I was at a store once with my younger (size 0, maybe 2 on a bloated day. Oh and a perfect rack, of course :-P ) that happened to "push" jeans as their product to sell like other stores push perfume or hair products, etc. Well I'm very bottom heavy but have a slightly smaller waist. The shirts I could kind of get into and was having fun trying them on with my sister but a sales associate came over to us pretty much throwing jeans in our faces. I tried to tell her several times they wouldn't fit but she some how convinced me that she was seeing something in me that I wasn't seeing in the mirror. I took the size 14 jeans and tried them on my size 18/20 hips. I could barely get them up. buttoning them would have taken a bungee cord. I handed them back to her, telling her they didn't fit and she responded "Oh well it's the biggest we go". I KNOW THAT. THATS WHY I DIDNT WANT THEM.
    So I went from having a normal happy mall experience to reminding myself about the struggles an overweight girl has to go through. I'm so glad you were able to find someone you felt comfort in to ease your concern (and not my pushy sales girl)!

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    1. Wow! That is awful! Sometimes I'm annoyed when I go to stores with thin people and I feel like the sales people look at me and think "what the hell is she going to buy here?" And totally ignore me or stare, but I think I'd prefer to be ignored then to go through that. Then on too of it she just had to announce that they were the biggest size, awful! Soon it won't be an issue for us though!

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    2. Oh my gosh Kay, sometimes I think thin people are not quite with it, lol! I was at a bachelorette party one time that was supposed to be a pjs and wine kind of night, but turned into a clubbing kind of night. I mentioned to the hostess that I hadn't brought any clubbing clothes and she was like oh no problem, you can borrow something of mine. Meanwhile I'm a size xxl and she's a size medium. I'm like ummmm I think you're a little smaller than me. She's like oh don't worry, I have some things that are pretty stretchy, we'll make it work. She wouldn't leave me alone til I tried them on and surprise surprise they were comically small and wouldn't even fit on one leg let alone both legs, ass, and hips...oy.

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    3. I know I get self conscious a lot while going shopping. Especially in stores that are kind of borderline not going to fit me. Old Navy is like my safe haven!
      And Angela that's pretty terrible. Especially when you KNOW things aren't going to fit. I got lucky in that aspect my best friend has always been the same size as me, we've gained together and we've lost together, so we've been able to trade clothes.
      Someday we'll be the kind ones knowing how it feels to be a "plus size". Keep up the work ladies!

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  3. I went to an amusement part and they had a little roller-coaster for little kids. Well my son was only 3 and he can ride but with an adult. It took me forever to get the bar down and make it lock and when it finally did I was so uncomfortable. The ride was not smooth at all and on top of that I had to hold my son because I was so big it wouldn't hold him down. I was so embarrassed because the people in line could see how difficult it was just to get it latched.

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    1. Oh man, these amusement parks. They are supposed to be a source of so much fun and so many of us struggle at them and leave feeling awful. I'm sorry you've gone though it and excited that you are on this journey with me so that things like this never have to happen again!

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  4. Hey, girl, congrats on 30 lbs, that's amazing and so happy for you that your hard work is paying off! Also, how awesome that your peak list is so much longer than the pit list! :) Have a great weekend!!

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  5. I AVOID amusement parks or any type of rides now. How sad :(

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    1. It is sad. I live amusement parks, but now unjust go to walk around and watch everyone else has fun. I'm tired of it! Time to change and to go have fun on rides again!

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  6. I feel your pain. Totally happened to me once at our local fair and I was horrified. I haven't gotten on a ride since then. By the time it gets here in late September I will be ready for it though! :)

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    1. Yes, by September we could be different people! Love it! Thanks for sharing some motivation :)

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  7. Congrats on 30 lbs!! That is amazing :) Keep up the good work girl! It is funny you mentioned the Unicycle thing...I actually have one! I wanted one when I was like 8 years old and begged my parents for one forever and they finally bought me one!! I tried to ride it a few times back then and could never get the balance...with that much calorie burn, maybe I should try again! LOL

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    1. So awesome that you have a unicycle! I saw this sign and thought it was hilarious. I don't think I have the balance to ever attempt it.

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  8. Oh my heavens! Been there, done that...still there, still do that, but I'm on WW, too and hopefully one day I can go and live and do fun activities without worrying whether or not I'll fit. It's such a crappy feeling.

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  9. Congrats on 30 pounds! And I totally and completely understand how you felt. I am obsessed with roller coasters. LOVE THEM. But the past 6 or 7 years I've avoided them like the plague because I've had one too many "close calls" with the straps being big enough, and that was like 40 pounds ago. So when I go to an amusement park or fair, I pretend I don't want to go on the super awesome roller coasters.. I'm sick of missing out. Oh, and don't even get me started on airline seats!

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  10. I'm so happy that you've met the 30 lb mark! I'm .4 lbs away from it myself. :) And I completely understand what you mean about the "fat girl code", that is something that I have always been afraid of. Thankfully, I am taller and my weight is spread out evenly on my body, but I came very close one time to not fitting onto a roller coaster. Even at that point, I was horrified, and this was at least 5 years ago. So I don't think I could fit at this point, but we will get past this. Soon enough we won't even have to worry about if we will fit in any seat.

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    1. Thank you so much! I'm so excited that you are so close!!!!

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  11. I TOTALLY understand! There have been there many times where I have been embarrassed not being able to "fit". But alas I am embarrassed and its humiliating... but last time it happened I didn't even really care. Anyhow, I excited for you about your weight loss! I have seen the code, like if we are at restaurant or something other chunky people are aware to move their seats or give some extra space. It kind of makes me some more mindful.

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    thanks
    new follower bev

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  13. You have a wonderful blog!! I'm your newest follower from the “Aloha Friday” blog hop - this is my blog if you wanted to follow back: godsgrowinggarden.com
    Thanks
    Angie

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  14. I understand where you are coming from. I used to always blame in on my bad back or my knees. But you are doing a great job and you are such an inspiration. I am lucky to have found your blog!!

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  15. I'm so glad that you had a better experience than before!!! Congrats on your 30lb. weight loss!!!!

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  16. Congrats on 30 pounds! I have the same fears. I can't remember the last time I went to an amusement park and actually got on the rides. It's definitely motivation for me to keep losing weight.

    www.cupcakesandcarrots.com/

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  17. Congrats on losing 30lbs so far! Stick with it! You are doing great :)

    New follower from the aloha blog hop!

    http://letstalkaboutme-sara.blogspot.com/2013/01/lacy-knit-cowl.html

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  18. KTJ, I got married in October and we went to Disney and Universal for our honeymoon. We were both really excited about the Harry Potter ride at Universal. They had one of those tester seats outside the ride so hubby and I both tried it out (he's also a bigger guy). This guy overhead us talking amongst ourselves about whether or not we should go on, and he came over and said he'd been on before and told us that if the shoulder harness comes down far enough a little light goes green, and if it's not safe it lights up red. But if you in the middle it lights up yellow, and the ride attendants will ask you to sit at the far ends of the ride...ya know to help balance it out. (It turned out he was actually an "off duty" employee there but just decided to fill us in because he understands....maybe it's a fat people code lol.) So anyways we go to get on the ride and the attendant tells me and my husband to sit on the far ends of the ride. I'm glad I was prepared for it ahead of time but I was still mortified to know that at just a glance the ride attendant decided I was too fat to ride like a normal person.

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    1. That is great that he talked to you guys and gave you a heads up! Could have been a much more embarrassing situation. It is great when people are understanding and nice about it. I'm glad you were both still able to go on and hopefully have a good time!

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  19. So, I just found you through the Pits & Peaks linkup and I have to say that you have a new follower! I seriously loved reading your post- it was so real, genuine and I felt like I was talking to a close friend rather than reading the blog post of someone I've never met! THANK YOU for opening up and being SO real and SO honest. I think it's really cool & I look forward to reading more!

    Congratulations on SO many peaks this week, too! 30lbs, new followers and giveaways?! You've had a great week, my friend!

    So very excited to have found you & I look forward to getting to know you better!

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  20. It's been SUPER cold here this week (and is actually going to be a pit for my week this week) so I get the feeling. Congrats on losing 30lbs! That is amazing Katie! Proud of you girl!

    Thanks for linking up!

    Allie

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  21. I TOTALLY know what you mean, I went to wonderland a few years ago with my friend who weighes like 90 pounds! some of the rides were really tight fight, one ride the guy told me I couldnt go on. WORST FEELING EVER, I was so embarrased, which is part of the reason im now down over 100 pounds, check out my journey http://adayinthelifeofmektt.blogspot.com/p/weight-loss.html

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  22. I'm tall and the amusement rides are hard for me to fit in to. It's more of a painful ride than something fun. Ha!

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  23. I had a similar experience to Angela's at Harry Potter. Unfortunately I was in the "red" zone, so I didn't get to go. I have to give props to the Universal employees for handling a potentially embarrassing situation very tactfully. They approached me quietly, pulled me out of line and had me sit in the tester seat, and then let me know they had tester seats available for all their rides, which was nice because I didn't have to waste time waiting in line for rides I couldn't go on. Congrats on the 30 pounds, keep it up!

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